{"id":1499,"date":"2023-02-08T10:00:00","date_gmt":"2023-02-08T10:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.calbaptist.edu\/cshb\/?p=1499"},"modified":"2023-02-23T06:52:22","modified_gmt":"2023-02-23T06:52:22","slug":"healing-conversations-on-race-the-role-of-empathy-in-building-christlike-racial-unity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.calbaptist.edu\/cshb\/2023\/02\/08\/healing-conversations-on-race-the-role-of-empathy-in-building-christlike-racial-unity\/","title":{"rendered":"Healing Conversations on Race: The Role of Empathy in Building Christlike Racial Unity"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

This is Part 2 of a 4-part blog post.  Read Part 1 here<\/a>, Part 3 here<\/a><\/em>, and Part 4 <\/a><\/em>here<\/em>.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Read Part 1: Black History Month: A Call For Healing Conversations<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Introduction<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In Healing Conversations on Race: Four Key Practices from Scripture and Psychology<\/a> <\/em>(Vazquez et al., 2023), four racially-diverse authors with advanced training in the behavioral sciences present four key steps for Christians to cultivate and maintain racial unity within the Body of Christ. Drawing upon the Bible as the beginning and ending point, then supplementing Scripture with insights gained from the psychological sciences, we advocate for humility, empathy, acceptance, and love to promote relational healing among racially-different Christians. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the book\u2014which was written for Christians who are committed to following Christ and want to improve their ability to engage in, and deepen, conversations on race and racism\u2014we offer four key steps that we believe can make a salient difference in Christian communities, including (a) maintaining an attitude of humility<\/em> when having difficult conversations on the sensitive, and often painful, topic of race, (b) using empathy as a way to understand others\u2019 unique race-related thoughts, feelings, behaviors, memories, experiences, narratives\/stories, needs, and so forth, (c) effectively moving toward the acceptance<\/em> of one\u2019s own and others\u2019 emotions, experiences, and needs, and (d) displaying Christlike love<\/em> in being behaviorally responsive to others\u2019 emotional pain and needs. Although these four steps are explored in much more detail in the book, I would like to devote this short blog to presenting the second key step\u2014empathy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Therefore, in this second in a series of four blog posts to dually present the four steps of the book and celebrate Black History Month, my goal, as one of the contributing authors, is to advocate for the foundational role of empathy in having healing conversations on race. In other words, I, along with my three co-authors\u2014Drs. Veola Vazquez, Charles Lee-Johnson, and Krystal Hays\u2014suggest that moving from disunity to unity within diverse, yet tragically segregated, Christian communities requires a deeper understanding of the emotions and needs of others. To start, I would like to define empathy, including its ingredients, then place it in the context of a healing conversation on race. My hope in this short blog is to point readers to the book, which includes much more thorough explanations, steps, activities, exercises, and examples of how to have healing conversations on race within diverse Christian communities. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Empathy Defined<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to the APA Dictionary of Psychology<\/em> (n.d.), empathy is \u201cunderstanding a person from his or her frame of reference rather than one\u2019s own, or vicariously experiencing that person\u2019s feelings, perceptions, and thoughts.\u201d So, in essence, empathy involves trying to make sense of someone else\u2019s story, from the inside-out and a place of compassion, including the various thoughts, feelings, and experiences that collectively capture the powerful narrative of another\u2019s life. This ability seems to be uniquely human, with human beings having the God-given skillset of trying to understand the inner world, not just the outer behavior, of others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, for Christians, we have the grand story of the Bible, or God\u2019s special revelation, as a starting point, which includes four overarching themes that span the Old to New Testaments\u2014creation, fall, redemption, and restoration. In other words, God created humankind in his image. Yet, Adam and Eve turned from God and, consequently, were banished from the Bible, Because of the fall, humans now experience all sorts of suffering, including the sin of racism and racial disunity, even in Christian communities. Still, God has offered humans a redemptive plan, based on the birth, life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ. So, for Christ followers who have put their faith in Jesus Christ, a restored relationship with God is possible as Christians faithfully wait for God\u2019s eventual restoration of all things, and Christians are to emulate Christ in building and maintaining Christlike unity, regardless of race, within Christ\u2019s Body. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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With Scripture as a trustworthy guide, racially-different Christians have a shared story in which we are all embedded\u2014God\u2019s story\u2014which means we have a firm foundation upon which to build and maintain racial unity. However, each Christian also has a unique story to tell, and Christians of color often face, on a regular basis, the enduring effects of the sin of racism. As a result, empathy can allow racially-different Christians to learn more about, and respond to, each unique race-related narrative that has developed over time in a fallen, broken world. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the context of healing conversations on race, compassionately trying to understand the other person\u2019s story, made up of a unique amalgam of thoughts, feelings, perspectives, and experiences, is key, especially their deeper, more vulnerable emotions and corresponding relational needs. Put more succinctly, feelings are signals that reveal what we need from those around us. Sadness, for instance, may convey loss and the need to be comforted by another during moments of grief and mourning, whereas fear can communicate present-moment danger and the need to be protected by someone else. Anger, as another example, can reveal themes of unfairness, unmet expectations, or injustice, with the need to create distance or attain a sense of control in relationships, and guilt can let us know we have wronged someone else and need to take steps to repent of the wrongdoing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

To offer a quick race-related example, if a Christian of color is expressing the pain of racism to a White Christian, the White brother or sister in Christ can compassionately listen to their story, especially the deeper, more vulnerable emotion (possibly sadness, fear, anger, hurt, shame, and so forth), along with the corresponding interpersonal need (e.g., validation, affirmation, support, responsiveness). To do so, a few important questions can be asked. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Empathy Applied<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

To make an intentional effort to empathize with another person when engaged in a conversation on race, asking a few key questions can be helpful: (a) What is this person feeling right now, and how can I communicate I\u2019m understanding the feeling? and (b) What does this person need from me right now, and how can I meet the need?  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For instance, in returning to the previous example, if a Christian of color is expressing the pain of racism, the White brother or sister in Christ can try to identify the feeling in the moment, then convey they are attempting to understand with a few key phrases, such as \u201cThat sounds so painful,\u201d \u201cI can\u2019t even begin to understand the hurt you must feel,\u201d \u201cThat seems like such a scary experience,\u201d or \u201cThat must have been such a huge loss.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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From there, the White Christian can begin to compassionately pinpoint the need that the Christian of color has in the moment, such as being affirmed and validated (e.g., \u201cYou have every reason to feel hurt\u201d) or supported (e.g., \u201cI want you to know I stand with you right now\u201d). Or, if the White Christian is unsure of how to respond, they can ask a few simple, direct questions, such as \u201cWhat can I do right now to support you? \u201cHow can I help?\u201d or \u201cWhat do you need from me right now?\u201d Ultimately, the uniquely human ability to empathize involves striving, albeit imperfectly, to better understand the emotional world, and corresponding relational need, of the other person, placed against the backdrop of personal and scriptural narratives. For brothers and sisters in Christ, we are one Body, which means we are called to respond to each\u2019s needs in a fallen, broken world, emulating Jesus Christ in all we do. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Conclusion<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

To summarize, in Healing Conversations on Race<\/em>, empathy is the second of four major steps. Placed in the context of the four others, we first commit to displaying humility as we enter into, and continue on with, healing conversations on race. In doing so, we also empathize with the other person\u2019s story, which includes their spectrum of inner and outer experiences. From there, we accept our own, and other person\u2019s, emotions, given they are signals that can convey vital information about relational needs. Finally, we display Christlike love by behaviorally responding to the other person\u2019s emotions and needs, then commit to continuing to respond to our racially-different brothers and sisters in Christ in order to glorify God in all we do. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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This blog is the second of 4 in our Black History Month Blog Series for 2023. Check back each Wednesday of February for more on how to have healing conversations. CBU Students who comment on these blogs will have a chance to receive a copy of the book. Winners will be emailed in early March. Listen. Learn. Engage<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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References<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vazquez, V., Knabb, J., Lee-Johnson, C., & Hays, K. (2023). Healing conversations on race: Four <\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

key practices from Scripture and psychology<\/em>. InterVarsity Press. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

APA Dictionary of Psychology. (n.d.). Empathy<\/em>. https:\/\/dictionary.apa.org\/empathy<\/a>  <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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